She Chose Not to Divorce Him

A courageous woman and her children endured abuse from her husband and their father for years. For safety, the day came when she felt it necessary to take her kids and break away from this man.

But, she chose not to divorce him.

Instead, she chose to pray for him and wait for God to work in his heart. Daily this woman prays for her husband to change. She petitions the Father to free him from the hold Satan has on his heart; she begs for God’s mercy, grace, and the truth to replace his anger and hostility.

She is waiting for God to answer her so they can reunite as husband and wife.

What strikes me about this true story was the woman’s tenacity to pray and her resolution to trust in God’s provision. She patiently waits on the Lord for His answer. She chooses to love her husband through prayer. While separated, she is wholly committed to this relationship no matter what.

If this is your story, I am not sharing this to prompt you to remain faithful to an abusive man; however, I do want us to take a moment and consider how this woman has gone beyond her own needs to be loved by her husband to loving him for eternity.  Likewise, the question poses, “How is this woman able to trust in God through it all?”

She reminds me of Joseph in Genesis 37-50.

Jacob lays on his deathbed. He blesses each of his sons. When he came to Joseph, he decreed, “Yet his bow remained unmoved; his arms were made agile by the hands of the Mighty One of Jacob (from there is the Shepherd, the Stone of Israel), by the God of your father who will help you, by the Almighty who will bless you with blessings of heaven above, blessings of the deep that crouches beneath…” (Genesis 49:24). 

Joseph’s life history included being sold into slavery by his brothers. He was rejected by family, yet, his bow remained unmoved. 

He worked as a servant in Egypt. He became successful serving in the household of Potiphar, an officer of Pharaoh. Then he was falsely accused of mistreating Potiphar’s wife and thrown in jail, yet, his bow remained unmoved.

Interpreting dreams of two prisoners and being promised that one would vouch for him before Pharaoh, he hoped for a release very soon; but this prisoner forgot him for a long time, yet, Joseph’s bow remained unmoved. 

He waited. He trusted. He depended on God. 

Waiting on God develops faithfulness within us.

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God released Joseph because a need came for him to interpret Pharaoh’s dream. Seeing that Joseph was discerning and wise, Pharaoh placed him second in command of all of Egypt.

Joseph learned that “the LORD waits to be gracious to you, and therefore he exalts himself to show mercy to you. For the LORD is a God of justice; blessed are all those who wait for him” (Isaiah 30:18).

At the end of Jacob’s life, he rewards his son’s behavior with the decree, “his bow remained unmoved.” 

How could Joseph be unmoved in faith with so much wrong done to his life?

His family rejected him.

His work mistreated him.

His friend abandoned him.

In all this, God was with him. He was never alone. It was the mighty hand of God who helped him. From the blessings of heaven to the blessings of the deep, God was there. He was Joseph’s Jehovah Shammah!

Are you waiting on God, my friend?

Has life taken an unfortunate turn for you?

Have you felt like relief will never come?

No matter the circumstance, remember that you have a bow of strength positioned for your success. God is unmoved by your situation. He is all-powerful. He waits for the right time for your release. Stay firm in Him. Be unmoved by it all, and stand upright, looking to the One who shows you mercy.


  1. This yet adds to the promise of Joel 2:25-27 in my life from our faithful Almighty God. Amen

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