Closer to Jesus

How to Have Emotional Intelligence in Conflict

As Daniel Goleman writes in his book, Emotional Intelligence, “If your emotional abilities aren’t in hand, if you don’t have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can’t have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” Goleman suggests that we be self-aware of our emotions. Applying his statement to conflict, it takes maturity to take an

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Parenting

How You Can Help Kids Living in Troubled Homes

When I was a Children’s Minister, along with leaders, we took kids to camp every summer. Some years, I also went as a leader to the student ministry camps. We would pack up the kids (or teens) and off we went for a week to camp each summer. I admit these weeks were highlights of my ministry! I looked forward to them every year! Some kids and teens came from homes filled with love and

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Marriage

4 Steps to Better Communication in Marriage: Fight Fair

When we were first married, Dan and I didn’t always fight fair. We were (are) both quite passionate. And being young and naïve, we were also a bit selfish. More often than I like to admit, we focused on ourselves, not each other. Sadly, judging one another came easy, especially when we disagreed about something. “Love does not keep a record of wrongs,” says Paul. However, we were masters at keeping score! Listening was not

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Parenting

How We Kept Santa in Christmas

Traveling home from the Christmas Eve service, I sat in the back of the car looking up at the sky. I was looking for Santa and his reindeer. I was probably around eight years old. I stared intently at the shimmering lights. Star after star glimmered in my sight, and then suddenly, I captured the most hopeful scene. A running stream of lights dancing across the heavens; I just knew, at that moment, I saw

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Closer to Jesus Parenting

Experience Christmas, A ‘Circumcision of the Heart’

A few years back my son and I planned to go out for a nice lunch and do some Christmas shopping. We went to the bank and withdrew a nice sum of money. It was going to be a fun day. After going to the bank, I had to stop by my office to get a few things done. So, Nick tagged along with me. While we were at the office, we decided we should

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